Finding the ‘perfect’ holiday gift
You want to find the perfect holiday gift
You want to express your love for someone by giving them the best, most-perfect present.
You want them to know how much you appreciate them.
You think they can only know all this if you get them the absolute most-amazing and perfect gift.
Or maybe, you just don’t want to be judged by your brother’s wife if you get her something she doesn’t like.
I’ve got news for you….
If you’re going to be judged, you’re going to be judged – no matter what you do.
And in other news.…
It’s totally okay if you’re judged.
It doesn’t mean anything about you.
And it’s not a problem.
We all judge people all day long.
And when we do, our judgments don’t mean anything about them either.
Judgments are just a series of thoughts floating around in people’s brains.
Back to the holidays...
Just do your best
Give what (or how) you want to give.
Personally: We stopped exchanging gifts amongst the adults in the family several years ago. Now, our gift to everyone is to cook Christmas morning breakfast. (My sister-in-law (a chef - amazing, I know!) cooks a beautiful multi-course Christmas eve dinner for the family, as her gift.)
So… do what you want to do.
Then, move on.
We can’t control how other people are going to feel about our gift (or lack of a gift) – so let’s stop making ourselves miserable with all the inner turmoil to get it right.
You’re amazing.
You’re generous.
And you’re trying WAY to hard.
So, stop it.
Stop killing yourself in a futile attempt to find the “perfect” holiday gift.
Just pick something.
Wrap it – or cook it.
And give it with love. ❤️
Gift giving should feel fun and joyful.
It doesn’t really matter what you get your mother-in-law, your sister-in-law, or your best friend’s kids.
Just do your best and move on.